tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post1055060507992979776..comments2023-06-22T09:58:46.044-05:00Comments on And it is love: I Can't Stop the Achechristinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-42843534917708793542012-06-01T15:04:47.872-05:002012-06-01T15:04:47.872-05:00Thank you too, for the understanding. It is embar...Thank you too, for the understanding. It is embarrassing to admit (for some reason), but true. I know it will happen eventually... I'm just feeling impatient.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-55983526745060101982012-05-31T23:17:01.847-05:002012-05-31T23:17:01.847-05:00Well, you certainly cannot deny the truth or how y...Well, you certainly cannot deny the truth or how you feel. <br /><br />I had that ache for a third two and then she came along just in time to both surprise me and squelch those feelings. I hope and pray that it can happen for you. <br /><br />Thank you for being so honest with us but especially with yourself. xoAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01044279582701415786noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-20986269065041365272012-05-30T23:36:38.200-05:002012-05-30T23:36:38.200-05:00Sorry you're feeling the ache too. And thanks...Sorry you're feeling the ache too. And thanks for the understanding and support!christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-71981760991597473712012-05-28T13:31:23.496-05:002012-05-28T13:31:23.496-05:00Everyone tells me that I'm nuts for wanting an...Everyone tells me that I'm nuts for wanting another baby as well. My darling two year old is using the potty, gave up her pacifier for good, knows her ABC's, 123's, shapes, colors, and can sort. I just feel like my baby is a big girl and I miss it. I'm not in a good spot to have a baby because my marriage didn't happen so I'll have to just keep longing for another baby because it just isn't my time. I said all that to say, I understand how you feel in wanting a baby even though every one else feels as if it may be irrational.InTransitionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08238370667550964149noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-20794915507318630162012-05-24T14:06:04.079-05:002012-05-24T14:06:04.079-05:00Thanks, Jessica. Yes, that's part of the thing...Thanks, Jessica. Yes, that's part of the thing. Even if/when we have another baby I wonder if it will really stop the aching. Changing my thought process is probably a good idea. It just so hard!christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-38865650221628681452012-05-24T14:04:56.638-05:002012-05-24T14:04:56.638-05:00Yes, we both have to be ready and not pushing each...Yes, we both have to be ready and not pushing each other. Which I think is partially why I just felt the need to get this out.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-79485268207068002572012-05-24T14:04:09.316-05:002012-05-24T14:04:09.316-05:00Thanks, Shell. Me too. :)Thanks, Shell. Me too. :)christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-5078852865154762372012-05-24T14:03:49.895-05:002012-05-24T14:03:49.895-05:00I am so sorry, but am happy for you that your two-...I am so sorry, but am happy for you that your two-year-old was able to help heal your heart. Thank you very much for sharing and showing your support.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-9212593902232122762012-05-24T14:02:46.887-05:002012-05-24T14:02:46.887-05:00Yes, the "pouring it out" does help. Eve...Yes, the "pouring it out" does help. Even if it only means people know how I am feeling and why. Thank you.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-37481809801067552882012-05-24T14:02:05.043-05:002012-05-24T14:02:05.043-05:00Thanks, Steph.Thanks, Steph.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-64687364953782529942012-05-24T13:26:57.335-05:002012-05-24T13:26:57.335-05:00So sorry you are going through this Christine. I c...So sorry you are going through this Christine. I can tell you that, as my youngest grew out of his baby phase I ached for a baby again too. I finally realized that what I was aching for was for our family to be whole which it never will be. When I changed my thought process then it made it easier for us to decide when/if we were ready for another.McKennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09299201553545817162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-3383548449757670742012-05-23T22:12:10.587-05:002012-05-23T22:12:10.587-05:00I knew that I wanted to have a 3rd. My husband wa...I knew that I wanted to have a 3rd. My husband wasn't so convinced, but because I KNEW deep in my heart that there was a 3rd baby for us I didn't push too hard. And eventually, 4.5 years after our 2nd, our 3rd was born. Just as I intended.<br /><br />I have to say that I am happy that I didn't push too hard on my husband in the beginning, but let him come to the let's have a baby decision on his own.<br /><br />I hope that you are able to find some peace with whatever decision you make.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09224711908880146896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-87623427562824519892012-05-23T20:03:14.346-05:002012-05-23T20:03:14.346-05:00I hope that you are able to have another. xoI hope that you are able to have another. xoShellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06811697675090627618noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-27413015276394403222012-05-23T15:23:24.034-05:002012-05-23T15:23:24.034-05:00I know that ache...all too well. After the first m...I know that ache...all too well. After the first miscarriage, I was a shell of my former self aching and desperate to have a baby. Infertility made it hard but not impossible and the twins came. The ache stayed but the desperation wasn't so bad. After the 4th baby died at 22 weeks pregnant, the ache and desperation was so loud and consuming it was all I could do to function. It didn't make sense because we had 3 kids but that ache doesn't make sense. I'm not saying it is everyone's answer but my 2 year old healed my heart. She healed all of our hearts. I wish you peace in making this decision and hope that you continue to share because that is healing, too. Found you through PYHO and so glad I did.AnnMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02152506646344966212noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-20800188273884531172012-05-23T12:39:58.690-05:002012-05-23T12:39:58.690-05:00I hope pouring your heart out here helps even if i...I hope pouring your heart out here helps even if it's only a little. You have a load of people who understand, even if they don't necessarily relate. Pain and guilt are universal and we all have our own way of coping with them. I hope you continue to talk about it and don't chose to bottle it up. Letting it out is setting it free.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-12541248046891956062012-05-23T12:12:28.283-05:002012-05-23T12:12:28.283-05:00Oh, my prayers and love to you!
StephOh, my prayers and love to you! <br /><br />StephStephanie Wilson she/her @babystephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02703122439142892617noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-30200887677813427012012-05-23T10:11:34.146-05:002012-05-23T10:11:34.146-05:00Yes, the ache is SO hard!Yes, the ache is SO hard!christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-61287969177279570052012-05-23T10:10:59.809-05:002012-05-23T10:10:59.809-05:00Thank you so much for this comment. I know that it...Thank you so much for this comment. I know that it will work out, we will eventually have another baby, I just don't yet know when.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-7539084013986872032012-05-23T10:10:12.631-05:002012-05-23T10:10:12.631-05:00Thank you, Stasha.Thank you, Stasha.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-12642529547080547102012-05-23T10:09:58.494-05:002012-05-23T10:09:58.494-05:00I am so sorry about your struggles. And thank you,...I am so sorry about your struggles. And thank you, I really appreciate the support about my opening up. It's embarrassing to admit and yet I feel a little better just having it out there.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-72194183354104527452012-05-23T10:09:03.532-05:002012-05-23T10:09:03.532-05:00Yes, there are a handful of people in my life who ...Yes, there are a handful of people in my life who have also experienced miscarriage. And I am grateful to have them. Thank you for your kind words.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-72833951831893846902012-05-23T10:08:02.003-05:002012-05-23T10:08:02.003-05:00Jamie, thank you. I appreciate this very much.Jamie, thank you. I appreciate this very much.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-90615075278286439652012-05-23T10:02:33.506-05:002012-05-23T10:02:33.506-05:00Thanks, Kristen. I think you're right. Just ge...Thanks, Kristen. I think you're right. Just getting it out there is what I've been needing to do. I needed to "own" my feelings.christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17769430042727753744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-3777138734778504752012-05-23T09:25:02.816-05:002012-05-23T09:25:02.816-05:00Oh I can definitely relate to this! I want another...Oh I can definitely relate to this! I want another baby SO bad, but at the moment my husband wants to wait another couple of years. I get the ache, I really do!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08405829105494703808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2821158029087280889.post-55904936469559556892012-05-23T03:00:04.098-05:002012-05-23T03:00:04.098-05:00I really understand the ache for another baby, and...I really understand the ache for another baby, and the difficulties that the decision to have another baby entail. I hope you work out a solution that makes you feel better, I hope that just sharing it on here will make you feel better, I haven't had the guts to really talk about it yet myself. I imagine that miscarrying is a very difficult thing to get through, you may need a little more time and hopefully when the time is right you'll have another baby and be able to enjoy it without all the guilt and other baggage. My best wishes your way today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com