Jan 4, 2012

There is No Reason

This is just the way it is.

Sometimes things just happen.

There is no "this happened for a reason".  Because well, there is no reason.  Things just happen.

Not because of what I did or did not do.  Or what I did or did not say.  Or what I did or did not think in the deep dark secrets of my mind.  Sometimes things just happen.

But it sucks.

It is unfair.

And it is the unfairness and the why? why? why? that make it so hard.

I don't know if this is the wrong mindset to have.  Maybe it's not healthy to think there is no reason.

But would it make a difference is there was a reason?  Sometimes I think it would be easier, but most of the time I know it doesn't matter.

The reason.  The lack of reason.  The whys.  It does not change anything.

Maybe some day I'll figure it out.  But for now I am just trying to accept that things happen.  And there is nothing I can do about it.  And that is all.


Linking up with Shell.


  1. I'm sorry for whatever you are going through.

    I have a hard time seeing a reason when bad things happen. I think sometimes, sucky stuff just happens. There's no reason behind it.

    1. Thanks. It's okay. There are just rough days.

  2. I'm with you, there is no reason. At least not a justifiable one. I'm sorry for whatever it is you are struggling with and I sincerely hope it gets better. Your words brought me back to my dark days when I had miscarriage after miscarriage. I wasn't interested in finding a reason because no reason would be good enough for me.

    1. Yes, thank you. So sorry about your miscarriages.

  3. I'm sorry :( Whether or not things happen for a reason, the pain caused is just as real. Sending hugs.

  4. There are days when all I feel like I do is ask for reasons...mostly the "why" one. I hope you find some comfort if this is something you are going through currently. If it isn't, I think it is important that you have at least understood that sometimes we don't have all of the answers even when we are in dire need of them. Take care.

    1. Thanks. Yes, it is important to remember sometimes we just won't get answers. And even though it's hard, that's just the way it is.


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